Sometimes we get so busy that it is easy to forget those magical words, "Thank You". If your spouse does something helpful - even as small as washing the dishes or taking out the trash - it is important to express your gratitude. Now, we all have responsibilities, and it is likely that s/he is going to keep taking out the trash whether you thank them or not. But, Jessica and I have found that the beginnings of resentment never have a chance to grow if we constantly thank each other (in word, writing, or deed) for the 'little things'. What is incredible about thanking her is that she'll often thank me back for things I have done for which I never expected a thank you. This creates an amazingly positive cycle of gratitude which leaves no room for fear, hurt, or resentment. In fact, we think gratitude is so important that it is Chapter 1 of our book!