Are you one of the many who has a tendency to complain about your partner to others? Your friends, your family…the guy/gal at the grocery store checkout counter? While this is a very common occurrence in the world, it’s actually quite a harmful one. Not only are you propagating a negative view of your spouse to your friends and family, but you’re perpetuating negative feelings about your spouse to yourself. Instead of “venting” about your partner’s latest flaw or faux pas, try holding your tongue. Or better yet, try to come up with something positive to say about your partner. You may not be feeling particularly positive about your relationship in the moment, but try to find something good to say, even if it seems stupid or inconsequential. It will help you to get in a positive thought pattern, rather than continuing and exacerbating the negative feelings you were already hanging on to.

Chapter one of our relationship advice book gives you the tools to help you propagate positive feelings about your partner, rather than negative ones! We believe this is the first step in moving towards a happy and healthy relationship.